Are you considering taking the plunge into marriage? Maybe you’re thinking "Am I ready for this ?" or "What do I need to know before tying the knot ?" These are common concerns, and addressing them requires more than romance—it also requires you to be psychologically prepared.
These concerns are in fact completely valid seeing as 50% of marriages get divorced, and 70-80% of those marriages who split up the woman initiates it. Generally nowadays, women don’t have as much of a reason to get married or stay married as they used to, women can have children outside of marriage or get married, have a child and then chose to divorce. Then there is the real possibility that a woman will settle for a guy because of their want of child around the late 20, early 30s mark because of their biological clock which gives them a limited time to have children.
That’s why it is important to be a strong confident male who is psychologically prepared to attract a variety of high quality females, from which then you can wisely choose your future wife.
Here we will delve into the essential aspects of preparing for marriage from a psychological standpoint. When it comes to such a significant milestone in life, it's very important to embark on a journey of self-discovery and personal growth. In fact, only 20% of men are the chad types, “the tall desirable ambitious men” women want. Even though there is always room to improve no matter what stage of life your in, the 80% of men who aren’t the men they envision they could be (at their max potential ), or who don’t have that self confidence that they are the prize o who don’t have sufficient self-awareness need to work on their psychological preparedness before they seek a marriage partner.
Men let’s stop chasing, it’s time to reach our potentials and attract THE ideal woman.
Let’s dive into the steps to achieve this goal!
1. Know thyself: Self-Awareness is Key
This first step emphasizes the importance of self-awareness as the foundation for a successful marriage. But what does "know thyself" really mean? It's about understanding your own strengths, weaknesses, desires, and motivations.
Imagine you're considering marriage because you feel lonely or because you want to start a family. While these are valid reasons, these are not good motives for entering marriage. Instead, seek a deep connection with a partner who shares your values and interests. For instance, if you're passionate about adventure and your partner prefers a quiet life, it could lead to conflicts down the road.
As emphasized earlier it is important to become the type of person that someone wants to be with. This involves developing qualities like confidence, self-assurance, and ambition—traits that are attractive to potential partners. For example, if you're constantly insecure or lack direction in life, it may be challenging to maintain a healthy relationship. This is where it is important to take more action in life, and in therapy there are methods such as self-talk that can be used to increase self-confidence.
2. Conquer Your Demons: Addressing Personal Issues
Both men and women have their own ways of avoiding.Men tend to avoid and escape through addiction (video games, porn, alcohol, substances, internet). You aren’t ready to get married if you are still escaping through unhealthy habits such as addictions and not being ambitious and having your things together.
Consider a scenario where a person uses video games as a way to escape reality and cope with stress. While gaming may provide temporary relief, it can strain relationships and hinder personal growth. By having developed a level of self-awareness in the last step you can begin to notice triggers in which you rely on such coping mechanisms which can sabotage your chances of a successful marriage and instead face your challenges head on and take action.
3. Choose Your Partner Wisely: The Art of Vetting
Once you have your muscle, your psychological preparedness, your purpose, your money and your game ready, you can’t just go out and get married within a few months you need to vet the woman you hope to marry past the infatuation stage. You have to date long enough to thoroughly know the woman you're considering marrying, and you have to observe her values, behavior, and compatibility with your goals and aspirations.
Imagine you've been dating someone for several months, and everything seems perfect. However, as time goes on, you start noticing red flags—such as differences in values or incompatible long-term goals. By vetting your partner carefully, you can identify these potential issues early on and make informed decisions about the future of your relationship.
In conclusion, preparing for marriage involves a lot more than just finding a woman you vibe with—it requires introspection, self-improvement, and careful consideration of your partner.
By following my advice and embracing these psychological principles, you can lay a strong foundation for a fulfilling and lasting marriage.
Remember, marriage is a journey filled with ups and downs, but with the right mindset and preparation, you can navigate it successfully.
If you find yourself in need of guidance or support, I am here to help. As a trained psychotherapist and coach, I am here to help you navigate life's ups and downs. Reach out to me today by filling out the contact form on our website, and take the first step towards doing the work to become the man you want to be.
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