The Mindset of Abundance

Hey everyone,

This is Adam from Wanderings.

I would like to talk about what we need to live a life of meaning and purpose.

It is very important to bring abundance into your life.

When I say abundance, I'm not talking about having a Lamborghini and millions

of dollars.

But of course, if that's what you want, that certainly does fall under the category

of abundance.

What I am talking about is an abundance of being, a true joy of living your life.

Living with authenticity, meaning and purpose. The relationships, the people, the

activities, the job, the hobbies, they all contribute to giving your life a sense of true meaning, love and connection.

Don't we all want that?

To have that mindset, we need to have a positive flow of the good into our life.

The problem is that the things of value are not so easily attained.

Say somebody comes up to you on the street and asks you for money.

Now most people have a good heart, and they want to give to a homeless person.

But you're only going to give a little bit.

It takes a very special person to give more than a few dollars.

This is because when we give our money and we give our attention,

we usually want something back.

That's just the way people are. We generally give to those who are giving back to us.

We give to those who we want to be connected to.

We give more when we feel something greater, we give to those

who have abundance.

Those are the people we want to be closer to.

However, it is the opposite with those who have a scarcity mindset.

Unfortunately, we actually try to push away needy people.

People who are begging us, pushing us, demanding more from our life.

Again, we all want to help people, and I'm not saying it's not a wonderful thing,

but the people that are in our life that we really want to be connected to

are generally people who bring light and goodness into our life.

Wanting positive in your life is under the assumption that you have a healthy mental state. When things are going bad, sometimes one is attracted to negativity, but that is the subject for another time.

This idea of the attraction of abundance is spoken about in Torah (The Hebrew bible). In Proverbs, King Solomon says about those who have wisdom, to them wisdom is given. Wow, that's great…. So you're saying wise people are going to gain more wisdom? Yes, that is exactly what it is saying.

But wait… wisdom should be given to the ignorant!

Unfortunately, that’s not the way of the world.

So it is with everything.

Wealth produces wealth, beauty attracts beauty.

It isn’t good or bad, it isn’t a judgment.

It is a law of the universe that people want to give to those who already have.

Yes, sometimes they will give a little bit out of pity, but what people really want are reciprocal relationships. Relationships based on respect, love and connection, not on weakness.

Therefore we tend to give our energy and our light to those who will give back to us.

That's the abundance reality.

The more you have, the more you're going to get.

Think of celebrities, for instance.

Here's a classic case, a celebrity when walks into a new restaurant, she’s got plenty of money. But yet, they get free food, free drinks. Maybe if it's a hotel they got a free room. But hold on, why should I give to these people? Give it to homeless people!

They're the ones who need the food.

Why does celebrities get this? Why do people chase after important people?

This is because we all want to be connected to something bigger and greater.

That's abundance.

When someone has abundance…. they walk into the room and they enter with so much energy and light. When they bring that abundance, other people want to be connected to them.

Everyone intrinsically gets this.

So the question is, how do we get this?

Because there is an obvious flaw in this.

We have already learned that one abundance brings another.

Well, what if you are at the very bottom, you are just starting?

How do we get there?

How do we get to that level of abundance, where people just want to be around us,

want to connect to us?

How do we get to the point where others want to give us business, money, relationships, really whatever we're looking for?

If we're lucky and we live healthy lives with healthy upbringings, we may just

naturally build and bring abundance to our lives. Confidence and success come easier to those who supportive, balanced structures in their lives.

Or, sometimes, rarely a miracle person or opportunity happens into our life.

Okay, you may ask, how does that help me?

Either you meet the right person, or the right opportunity comes, or you are lucky enough to come from the right family. I have none of that.

What about the rest of us who don't have all those advantages?

How do we bring more abundance in our lives?

How do we get to those levels of greatness?

One of the ways it happens is called the “AHA” moment.

Something just happens and clicks and you get it.

A epiphany. A miracle really that projects your life in a different direction.

Alcoholics call this a moment of clarity. I have seen in my practice that people usually don’t improve until they have hit the rock bottom.

Sometimes we have an awakening when we're on the bottom.

We see we have no choice but to change.

When I was 39 years old I looked in the mirror and said, you know what?

I don’t want to look like this anymore. I don’t want to feel this way.

I want to be stronger, I want to be healthy. I want to feel good.

I want to wake up in the morning and not have my back hurt.

Something just changed.

Many times I had made resolutions before, but something just changed this time.

I started hitting the gym, I started running. I started eating healthier.

I slowly started to change my life.

The reason I was able to do that was because I had just recently moved into a

good work position. Because I had that little bit of light, that little bit of

abundance in my life, I was able to get to that next aha moment.

I said, “Hmm, I'm doing good in my work life, so now I can move to this….”

I saw myself differently. That produced the impetus necessary.

Once you're able to pull it off that one thing well, the next one comes.

You start working out and you feel good about yourself, not only because

of the way you look, but because of the endorphins. You are also fitting

into better clothes, you are finding that people giving you more attention, etc, etc.

That's going to have an effect when you go to that business meeting, and that's going to have a big effect when you meet the next person that you want to date.

Having that one impetus is not always going to happen.

Sometimes YOU need to be the impetus.

You are on the bottom, and you want to change from that place.

You just can't do this anymore, be this way anymore!

How do you get that one necessary thing of abundance to start the cycle going up?

You can't change everything, you can't change the opportunities and the people that fall into your life.

But you can make your own opportunities and abundance,

by fixing the things that ARE within your realm to fix.

That is it, that is the secret of abundance.

It’s quite simple.

You ALWAYS have something, no matter how small, that is under YOUR control to change.

You could buy some nicer clothes.

You can start working out.

You can take an internet course.

You can work on your personality characteristics to not be angry

or to not be lazy.

You can learn a new skill.

There is so many things you can do.

Do something that makes you happy, that you know you can do.

Something that will contribute to your well-being, your abundance mindset.

Do things that center you.

You can go to nature and spend time around beauty.

These are things that you always have control over.

Generally, under normal circumstances there's always something that you can improve, that will give you self-esteem, purpose and meaning.

Once you get that, then you hit the next thing.

You go from strength to strength.

When you go to a job meeting and you don't already have a job,

then you are going to have that scarcity mindset.

Well, that's the thing.

You don't go to the meeting with a scarcity mindset.

You have to be the prize, the one who chooses, “is this job right for YOU?”

Who says they are the only interviewers? You have to interview them,

if you want them in YOUR life, if they are good enough for you.

Stop giving others so much power to determine your life, your feelings.

You should always be building and improving your life.

Master the abundance mindset all the time

and conquer the things that you can fix.

And then, when you walk into that meeting you're going to have abundance,

even if you don't have a job.

When the aphorism says, that “you need a job to get a job,”

What it really is teaching that you need to be the kind of person

who would have a job, to get a job.

Obviously people without jobs get jobs all the time!

Become the kind of person that they would want to have

around. The kind of person that can give to them what they want.

It's all about them, what you can give to them.

This is what Dale Carnegie teaches.

The first line of a business letter should always be what you can offer THEM.

When you have abundance, you become the person you always dreamed of.

Who you are is obvious just by looking at you or hearing your voice.

It's about attraction not promotion.

“Demonstrate, don’t explicate.”

It's not about selling, and bragging and showing how great you are.

It's about being, its about actually becoming great, being the person that

you want to be.

That is abundance.

You can't always change your all of your circumstances,

but you can always work on something.

That will propel you to something else,

And show up in your attitude when you wake up in the morning.

What are you going to do that will bring abundance?

Abundance breeds abundance,

wisdom brings wisdom.

Life brings life,

the light brings greater light.

That is going to bring you the abundance that you want in

your life!

Thank you, this is Adam Law with Wanderings.

Have a great day.

If you’d like a little boost, you can book a psychotherapy/coaching with me.

Lots of love.

Based on the YouTube Video “The Mindset of Abundance.”